If you've been doing this work for some time, then you understand that BOUNDARIES and STANDARDS are important.
If you've been doing this work for some time, then you understand that BOUNDARIES and STANDARDS are important.
We talk about them as if they're the elephant in the room because some of us don't really know what they need to be until a situation comes along that shows us that we never had them and need them now.
What are the boundaries necessary in your relationships?
Have you considered the standards you need to have in order to avoid being with someone who doesn't meet them?
You see, we generally know when both boundaries and standards are missing even if we can't really articulate WHY. We just know something is missing, messed up and it needs to change.
A perfect example is being cursed at, ghosted, manipulated, gas lighted, abused - and still going back to the abuser. You know in your gut and your heart that it’s wrong but you’re not sure what or how to fix it.
Boundaries and Standards are all about self-love, personal value, authenticity, and integrity. They speak your language and create the foundation for your life and prevent anyone from abusing, mistreating, or hurting you.
Boundaries – designed to keep your self-love intact and prevent you from being manipulated, used, or violated
Standards – the qualities that must be present from the very beginning
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Take some time to sit down and write up your own criteria for your Boundaries and Standards and then implement them in your relationships.